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Post by jayko on Jan 30, 2012 10:24:22 GMT 9.5
Inj, he sounds awful! Your poor daughter having to live with that... It is a shame she took him back. My sister's boyfriend cheated on her a while back so she went over to his place, took all the presents he had given her, and proceeded to smash each and every one of them in his driveway. She went a little nuts, but I thought it was great. I don't think anyone should ever take back a cheating partner. To me, that is unforgiveable.
My rant for today is that stress is getting way too high for me at the moment that my frickin' eye has started twitching! It is so frustrating! I think everything is just coming down on me at the moment. I have a major conference I am trying to organise, yet most days I am the only one in the office having to deal with all the other bookings that are coming through and the phone calls and I am just so far behind! My boss doesn't even seem to care. It is her own business and she only ever spends 2-3 hours in the actual office. To top it off, some people in my life seem to think that everything revolves around them and that I should be dropping everything and changing plans so that it fits in with what they want. I know I usually allow people to walk all over me but right now enough is enough!
Sorry, I'm done. XD
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Post by Marie-Cris on Jan 30, 2012 12:58:18 GMT 9.5
Aw, Jayko! You need a vacation. Possibly including chocolate.
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Post by jayko on Jan 30, 2012 14:58:23 GMT 9.5
Chocolate and an Anthony fix to make me smile! I think a night in with Fledermaus is in order.  |
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Post by Fredus on Jan 30, 2012 17:56:37 GMT 9.5
Poor Jayko! That sucks.  Kind of sounds like my boss, too; it's his own business and even though he's there all the time, he's sitting in the office looking up motorbike stuff (there've been witnesses) while there are still orders that should have been done two months ago and everyone else has to make up for it. Except for me, I'm the lowest of the low, so our resemblance ends there. Definitely calls for chocolate and Anthony. Which actually sounds a very interesting notion. Inj, that's awful! Your sister's husband sounds rather similar to my sister's husband... he has the same 'jokes' that just make people hurt. Meanwhile, was talking to my sister. I was staying very calm, but said something wrong and ended up being plunged into an argument, which I really didn't want. I have to admit I then said things I shouldn't have... but she pretty much said I was too young to have any idea about anything and she'd talk to me again when I grew up (I'm paraphrasing a lot there). I tried to defuse the situation by telling her I love her; she's my only sister, you know, and I grew up idolising the ground she walked on, almost literally. She didn't bother answering. Family can break hearts too. |
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Post by unwinding_fantasy on Jan 30, 2012 17:58:15 GMT 9.5
Fred, I'm agreeing whole-heartedly with what everyone else has said: the guy does not deserve a second thought. He doesn't have the right to bully anyone. Telling your sister is a good starting point. She has a right to know her husband's being an arse and she should call him out. If she agrees with him or is wishy-washy about the whole thing I'd be calling in the big guns: your brother, parents, everyone. Nobody has the right to push you around. You stood up to your bosses; this is just the next step on the assertive scale. Jess, you know how I feel about your boss. Speaking of cheating though, I just had the funniest image of me in your driveway attempting to smash the rubber ice cube tray...  |
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Post by Fredus on Jan 30, 2012 19:02:30 GMT 9.5
Well, I told two of my brothers. They both pretty much said he's a tosser and pay no attention, but at least they know. This all sucks. Life should be easier than this.
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Post by Marie-Cris on Jan 31, 2012 7:24:51 GMT 9.5
It would be if he wasn't such a dickhead.
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Post by Fredus on Jan 31, 2012 19:21:13 GMT 9.5
Yeah, life would be easier without that idiot.
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Post by unwinding_fantasy on Feb 1, 2012 6:07:56 GMT 9.5
It's a good thing they know and their advice comes from the heart. If anything like that happens again I would tell your brothers ignoring him isn't helping and you'd appreciate it if they backed you up.
That's a shame that the talk with your sister went downhill (and sorry about my previous post; we replied almost at the same time and I missed your post!) Maybe she'll be able to put aside the argument at the end and concentrate on what you were trying to tell her. That is bullshit about you being "too young" to understand. Even kinder kids know that being mean to somebody is not on!
You did the right thing by talking to her about it though. If she can't stand up to her husband, that is ultimately her issue and she'll suffer for it in the end.
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Post by tori2210 on Feb 1, 2012 11:12:48 GMT 9.5
Well I was just gonna call my cousin a dick but thats got nothing on what Fred and Inj's sister seem to be going through. I hope everything works out for everyone soon. Second day of shcool today, admin for the new Year 9's. These last two days have been real hot and humid. It's the humidity thats made it really bad. We've been having a rather mediocre summer so it's almost unbearable. Other than that though, things are good. I have AWESOME teachers this year.  |
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Post by poppy on Feb 1, 2012 12:14:01 GMT 9.5
I thought I was the only one with fecking idiot brothers inlaw & sisters inlaw! I feel for you all, Inj your Ex bro in law sounds like a real tool and when I read that comment what he said about your sister I just wanted to slap him! Mark his e-mails as spam and they should be blocked getting through! Fred & Mar I'm so sorry you have to deal with such a knob! Just ignore him even if you want to slap him in the face with a brick! It's really sad when your family hurts your more than what a complete stranger would do! Mark's brother lives off confrontation and we have had so many text wars it's not funny. I just stop responding and he got the hint.....eventually! Jess, I know what will de-stress you! A visit to my sugar Daddy! *XD* My rant, Lennox starts school tomorrow ( sorry tori, it will be a nice day in Melbourne ) Layla starts on Monday.........I have no money! |
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Post by Marie-Cris on Feb 1, 2012 19:02:09 GMT 9.5
How hot has it gotten your way, tori? I remember feeling overheated going back to school, but back then we rarely ever hit over 37. Poppy!  You need more money! The Annie soundtrack is out! BTW, it feels like the Year of Stupid Relatives in here. |
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Post by Fredus on Feb 1, 2012 19:04:27 GMT 9.5
I just carefully wrote a long detailed response, organised into answers to different people; when I went to post it, proboards died and my post was lost forever. The worst thing is that now I can't remember anything that I wrote. |
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Post by mazza on Feb 2, 2012 12:19:55 GMT 9.5
@ Fred I usually type me longer posts in word and then copy and paste them so if something goes wrong I still have the word version.
It's so true every family has one. Some families have two and some are cursed to have a whole tree full.
My brother-in-law has never forgiven us for moving to Australia. When my mother- in-law died he phoned in the early hours of the morning. My husband answered the phone to have this voice declare to him. “You’re mother’s dead! Now are you coming home?” My husband tried to ask what had happened and his brother just put the phone down on him. He just sat there in bed completely stunned. I don’t think he has ever recovered from the experience and it certainly did nothing to help his already strained relationship with his brother.
It's true you can pick you're friends but not you're family!!!! Isn't it strange how so many of us have these issues with in laws?
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Post by poppy on Feb 2, 2012 16:07:57 GMT 9.5
Geez Mazza your brother in law sounds like a tosser too!
Mar I know about the soundtrack but I can't even afford that at the moment......hopefully it will be part of the merchandise sale here in Melbourne and I have a few more months to save!!
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Post by unwinding_fantasy on Feb 2, 2012 16:35:08 GMT 9.5
My mini-rant: the experiment I've been working on for weeks culminated in failure. I repeated various steps and every single time, failure. Have to give a talk next week and have no decent results. So frustrating!
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Post by Marie-Cris on Feb 2, 2012 20:41:48 GMT 9.5
@ Fred: At least you didn't spend the past 10 minutes frantically txting someone to try and get them to remember who you were and that we had just spent the evening together, only to discover it was someone else with the same name.
@ Mazza: That's just ... insane! I never really thought of the whole "all in-laws are bad" thing, but after this week, I can see how that can be a common misconception!
@ Poppy: Fingers crossed!
@ Eb: Oh no! What are you going to do?
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Post by Fredus on Feb 2, 2012 21:19:42 GMT 9.5
Mazza, that's just absolutely vile. Your brother-in-law sounds like an awful person! Unwinding, sorry that your experiment hasn't worked. I second Marie-Cris' question - what are you going to do? Marie-Cris, at least she was someone that you'll never have to see again. It's much better to do embarrassing things in front of people you'll never talk to again. I didn't want to leave things so badly between my sister and I, so I sent her an apology. I should probably have called her, but I figured if she didn't take my apology gracefully, it would be less humiliating via sms as that way she wouldn't hear me cry. Anyway, she texted back and said she doesn't want to go there again. I sent her a text back and said I apologised and I told her I love her, and that's about all I know how to do - and she didn't answer. So anyway, I sincerely tried, twice, to fix things; she's rejected me rather harshly each time. So now I'm going to back off. I can't keep doing this, it hurts too much. So now it's up to her. If she ever wants to be family again, it's going to have to be her that tries it. But ... I've apologised. If she wants to apologise too, I'll forgive her. But I suspect that I'm not capable of completely forgetting. It's probably hard to forget that my sister doesn't love me. Anyway, sorry for the rant again. |
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Post by jayko on Feb 2, 2012 21:52:43 GMT 9.5
That is so awful, Fred. Sorry to hear things didn't go well with your sister. But you have tried and she has made this stupid decision and it is her loss. You still have some wonderful people in your life, spend more time on them. At least they will appreciate it. |
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Post by Fredus on Feb 3, 2012 18:41:05 GMT 9.5
I do have lots of wonderful people in my life. I'm very lucky that way, but I guess that I can't expect everything to go right always. |
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Post by Injeanious on Feb 4, 2012 17:24:15 GMT 9.5
I am trying to sort out possessions so my house won't look so cluttered when it goes on the market (although with all the problems I am having with it I have no idea when that will be). How does one person end up with so many clothes, boots, books, stuff??? I have sorted out most of the wardrobe in the second spare room and have listed quite a bit to sell on Trademe, now there is the wardrobe in the first spare room and in my room to go. I have hired a storage unit and it is almost full already and I am being ruthless too. It's all getting to be a bit too much!!
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Post by Fredus on Feb 4, 2012 20:05:09 GMT 9.5
I feel for you! We were trying to be ruthless, and there's still so many boxes that it fills more than half of the spare room. And there's still more to go...
I'm sorry that you're having so much trouble, but at least you're getting organised earlier. If you're getting it done now, hopefully there'll be no need for a mad rush at the end.
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Post by tori2210 on Feb 5, 2012 8:13:16 GMT 9.5
( sorry tori, it will be a nice day in Melbourne ) Eh? I'm confused. I don't live in Melbourne. Or even Australia. I would like a nice day though. |
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Post by poppy on Feb 5, 2012 14:12:12 GMT 9.5
^^
@tori, I know you don't live in Australia. You were saying that when you went back to school it was very humid and I was being apologetic that you have to sit through that and I was just saying it was nice weather here in Melbourne when my son started school!
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Post by unwinding_fantasy on Feb 7, 2012 19:06:21 GMT 9.5
Mar and Fred, there's nothing I can do about it unfortunately. Just have to bullshit my way through this presentation. Rant a lot about what should have happened. Still annoying though. Fred, that is a real shame about your sister but like you said, the ball is in her court now. Concentrate on the things that are good in your life now: lots of people who love you, moving, getting away from that horrible job... You can be at ease knowing that you've done everything you can to fix the situation. When is the move, Inj? I'm moving at some point this year too. For once I'm grateful I don't own much! |
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Post by tori2210 on Feb 19, 2012 18:10:09 GMT 9.5
^^ @tori, I know you don't live in Australia. You were saying that when you went back to school it was very humid and I was being apologetic that you have to sit through that and I was just saying it was nice weather here in Melbourne when my son started school! Ohhhh! That makes alot more sense. Sorry about that, I misread your post. I hate level 2 Mathematics. Period. On the upside I'm sitting three Theory of Music exams this year. |
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Post by poppy on Feb 26, 2012 12:50:27 GMT 9.5
I'm fecking sick AGAIN! GRRRRRRR!!! Seven weeks running, I am so over it! |
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Kind of sounds like my boss, too; it's his own business and even though he's there all the time, he's sitting in the office looking up motorbike stuff (there've been witnesses) while there are still orders that should have been done two months ago and everyone else has to make up for it. Except for me, I'm the lowest of the low, so our resemblance ends there. 
